From the day that my father stepped out of my life again...I decided this was going to be it. I will have a child soon and I will not subject him to the pain and hatred of my family. After the confrontation on the phone we went ahead and canceled the lunch and headed over to Shane's parents house. Somebody other then us has to be happy about this child!
So we had grab a magazine while we were out that said fun things to do with your grandchildren and headed over. We walked in and chitchatted for a bit then handed them the magazine. Dad looked at the mag and said thanks he would look it over later. They already had one grandchild from Shane's sister so he figured we got it for that reason. However Mom....being a Mom caught on like a flash of lightening. They were excited to have another grandchild on the way. My father and mother in law were very disappointed in my fathers actions. At that time all I could think of is now I am parent less. Yes I have Shane's parents but it really is not the same. I dont have my own mother to help me through the tough parts or the delivery or any of that mother/daughter stuff. I had missed it before with the whole prom thing and all that. Again my friend had a wonderful mother that made me part of their family, still not the same. Now I have lost my father. I dont have a Daddy to run to...I don't have a father to call for help....But I am bound and determine to make MY family happy!
My rules to my happy family:
1. We will not stay angry - our tempers may need a time out, but we need to talk after that.
2. No grudges - if you have something to say say it or it is going to eat at you till it is to big for us to talk about.
3. Ugliness will not be in the house. We will not call each other stupid or ourselves. We will not put down each other or ourselves (I am still fighting with the not putting yourself down)
4. No one will come between us. We are a family and we are going to stay a family. There will be no separating us. If Shane says this is how it will be, then I will be behind him all the way.
5. No hitting! Now does this including spanking...I will tell you no. There is a distinct difference between getting the crap beat out of you and a swat on the rear.
6. We all make mistakes, be up front in admitting. It just gets worse if you try to bury it.
7. Learn how to fight with each other. Need to understand what you are saying and how someone the other can take it another way. An able to admit when there is fault.
8. Pick your battles. Really we are fighting over how the towels should be folded? Or are we going to take the time for harder hitting issues.
9. Don't judge! We are all different. We look different we act different. You dont know someones journey.
10 WE NEED GOD!
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